RM Live - 10/5 (Part 2)

즐추 (Jeul Chu), 즐추2

See part 1 here.

My commentary in green.

sometimes i even think - is this why some people reach for marriage?
like a forever family? forever friend?
kinda like.. a forever companion to do things with?
like maybe they're looking for a lifelong friend or something

i have a lot of friends who are married.. sometimes is think like perhaps this is why they chose marriage
my parents, at my age.. like i was already 3 when my parents were my age
but i still feel like a KID
i wonder like how did my mom and dad...get married and have a CHILD at that age?
it's Chuseok soon so i'm going to go see my parents tomorrow
i mean i guess back then there was a lot more social pressure too..
but i think it's so crazy .. like
like raising a kid and starting a family...
now that i'm in my 30s
i think it's such a huge undertaking..

i think.. beyond perhaps wanting to be married someday.. like ..
like back then.. my mom and dad.. so actually my mom and dad were elementary school classmates..
they dated for like 9 years almost before they got married

and like our *bon ga and *weh ga ..oh i guess ppl don't really use these terms anymore.. my mom's house and dad's house (when his parents were kids!) are like 5 minutes apart by car

*본가 (bon ga)= one’s parental home, usually referring to father’s side of the family
**외가 (weh ga)= one’s maternal home, usually referring to mother’s side of the family
but most importantly - it's true - people don't really use terms like this anymore because it reflects a little bit of an outdated structure

so they went to the same elementary school together
so whenever i went to the countryside, i used to play there [at that school]
now that it's the countryside, there are no kids so the school is closed down...
but when i go to that elementary school, i can still feel the traces of my mom and dad when they were young
so seeing my parents, i thought maybe someday i'll get married naturally too
but now that i'm already ***32... hehehe

mere minutes ago - in part one, he was 31 friends. time flies. you know? especially when BTS is doing the age maths.

if i get married too early, maybe you guys will be sad..loll
i mean i might not even be able to..
i think out of my friends, like 2 or 3 out of 10 are married and some already have kids...
but these days, more and more ppl are not getting married so if i meet the right person at the right time, maybe i will get married
or maybe i'll just live alone like this
i don't know
i don't think there's a right answer

the vibe these days is that ppl are rushing to get married
and there are a lot of practical realities..
women especially have to think about kids and other issues..and other media/societal pressures
but i'd hope that ppl just live their lives the way they want to
i don't think there's a right answer

i think if you can't stand being alone, will marriage really solve that?
because once you're married, you might want to be alone again.. ppl are complicated like that
so if you can be okay being alone, you'll probably be okay being with someone else too
and vice versa
so if you're lonely being alone and you choose marriage as a way to escape that loneliness, i think that's a bit...

i don't really know about kids either
for me.. i'm already struggling to raise myself
and you can't really control when you have a kid
and thinking about how my parents struggled raising me when i was young
what if a kid like me comes out?...?? ayoooo
oh man..how annoying would [the kid] be.. i mean i suppose [the kid] could be lovable too..
there's no right answer..

RM biases breathe.. lol I know he said that baby RM would've been annoying and we are all reeling but it's okay. we'll all be okay. we're all so grateful for baby RM. he was lovable. he is lovable. oh kim namjoon. what a bingbong.

for the people who are married, they can only speak from the perspective of being married
and for the people who aren't married, they can only speak from the perspective of not being married
so they don't really understand each other
so i think ppl should just take other people's stories with a grain of salt
i think ppl born in the 90s are the first generation to see marriage as an option (as in, previously many families married out of tradition, out of filial duty, out of following social norms, out of perhaps economic necessity, etc but folks born in the 90s can choose to get married if they want)

so i think ppl should just do what they want to do
of course, i'm a dutiful son now
i think i'm the most dutiful son now
but when i was young, i really worried my parents a lot
you'd be surprised if i told you
i'll do an interview with my parents later...HOW much I worried them
so now i try to be good to my parents
like a karmic thing...

i went pretty deep into marriage talk loll
but it's something we can talk about
because in our lives, what else is there to talk about?
hobbies, travel.. there's no right answer to any of that stuff..
but i think it's really important to nourish your body and mind
i think exercise and reading can bring a lot of good things to ppl
i don't think there's anything like "you must do this" or "this is definitely good"
but if there's something that's almost 100% good, it's reading books and exercising
because they don't lie..

yeah the options are endless
it's just life talk
right?
you guys are all getting older too

so getting married doesn't suddenly make loneliness disappear
i don't think so anyway..

hehehe
muscles don't betray you
muscles don't betray you, right?

let's all just age gracefully together
right? right?

and something i want to tell you guys..